Naming kids the same names as your parents

Too weird?  Older step kids have modern names--think Katelynne and Payton. My son has my fathers name. One of my top girls names is my mothers name. Both of my folks are still living. Am I crazy to even consider this?



September 4, 2012 4:02 PM

If I liked the name, I would love to honor my parents by using it.  I plan on using my dad's name as a mn if we have a boy (not a first name just because it's such a super common name).  I think it's more important to give your kids a meaningful name than one that just "fits" with the other kids.

September 4, 2012 6:56 PM

Not crazy, just old-fashioned! Modernly, "mom names" are in the same class as "mom jeans", but a couple of generations ago, naming babies for their grandparents was the norm in many cultures. If your parents happen to be blessed with timeless classic names, and your spouse is happy with your choices, by all means make Grandma happy. (I'm assuming she'd be happy to share her name with her grandbaby. It may be politic to ask.)

September 4, 2012 7:13 PM

I mean, they would share the same first names, not in the middle. Like meet my parents Paul and Julia and my kids, Paul and Julia. 

September 4, 2012 9:07 PM

It's touching, but I think you should have some nicknames planned out, unless you want family gatherings with Big Paul and Little Paul.

September 5, 2012 12:45 AM

(Are those the actual names, or just random examples?)

Really, how often would a scenario occur where you were introducing both your parents and your kids to someone? If it did occur, the names would certainly be a conversation-starter, but the sky wouldn't fall, and nobody would make hex signs at you. I really don't think it's a problem, if the principals (your spouse and parents) agree.

Full disclosure: I have the same name as my mother and her mother. (It happens to be Julia.) I gave my daughter a variant (Juli@nn@), which was the name of both of my mother's grandmothers.

Nicknames can help at gatherings of the extended family. They needn't be elaborate or far afield: Julie versus Julia is plenty of difference. In closer family circles, "Grandma" or whatever sounds quite different from Julia, and "Grampa" sounds nothing like Paul.

September 5, 2012 2:17 AM

The names used as examples are stylisticaly similar but not the actual names. As it is we do Papa Paul and Paul baby or Paulie

September 4, 2012 10:26 PM

 If you like the names, your spouse agrees and you are both OK with the idea of honoring your parents, I don't see why not.  I also don't think the stepkids names should really matter too much, I know plenty of blended families where the kids names don't match.  

By mk
September 5, 2012 12:20 PM

I don't think it is crazy or weird at all. Lots of families have kids named after their grandparents or other relatives.

Is your spouse ok with both kids being named after relatives on your side? that's the only thing I'd want to be sure about first.

September 5, 2012 7:19 AM

My daughter is Katharine after my mother Catherine.  Really no biggy.  My mom is Cathy and we thought we'd call my daughter Katie/Kate but we've ended up with Kat or no nickname at all.  There is occasional confusion when my hubby calls my mom Kath and my daughter Kat, but no more than when he calls my dad Lar (He's Larry/Lawrence) and my other daughter Clare.  I guess it helps that my kids just call my parents Grandma and Poppa.  If in conversation they need to disinguish between the other set of grandparents then they used their surname.

February 25, 2013 12:07 PM

I know the posts are a few months ago, but I just wanted to add that we gave our second daughter my first name as her middle name and I think it is a beautiful testimonial of love. Hopefully it is a name that she will carry as a reminder of my love to her.  Our first daughter's first name is the same as her much older stepsister (they have twenty years difference, and it is a beautiful name). So I hope you went ahead and gave your daughter your mother's name. It is a beautiful thing to do and your daughter will some day be proud to carry her grandmother's name, especially if her grandmother is close to her.  Waw! thumbs up!