nn Benji? Help with boys name please

One of my best friends is pregnant too and just found out she's having a boy. She really wants a Benjamin as she LOVES the nickname Benji. Unfortunately her husband knew someone named Benjamin he didn't like at all, which makes it a no-no for him. He does like Benji, but neither as a nn for Benjamin nor as a stand-alone name. As I was positively surprised by the suport I got trying to name my twin girls, I promised my friend I'd ask for your ideas on her behalf. Can you think of any other names that Benji could be short for? Or do you have any other suggestions what you think they might like? They already have a son Jordan who goes by Joey and a daughter Isobel who goes by Izzie

Thanks in advance :)


July 23, 2015 12:01 PM

The only name that I can think of fitting this criterion is Benjen, as in Benjen Stark from Game of Thrones.  I am not a big enough fangirl to consider using that name myself, but I think it is usable for someone who is OK with Game of Thrones names.  Certainly people have been using Arya, and some Tolkien, comic book, video game, Hogwarts, and other science fiction/fantasy names are in use too.

By kbot
July 23, 2015 12:54 PM

I think she could use any name beginning with Ben, especially with a J middle name. Benedict James, nickname Benji. Other suggestions: Bentley, Bennett, Benson.

July 23, 2015 4:14 PM

This is exactly what I was going to say. I'm partial to Bennett from this list. 

A little aside, it is possible for names to be redeemed. (This of course depends on why exactly he and hubby didn't get along. If he was the annoying guy in midde school years ago, it could work. If he was the guy who stood up and tried to ruin their wedding...probably not.) It might be worth deciding to call the baby Benji no matter what, and decide at the hospital whether he's more of a Bennett, Benjamin, or Reuben. When dad is holding his newborn son, he may realize that old Benjamin WhatsHisFace from 7th grade really doesn't matter any more. 

July 23, 2015 3:37 PM

Great suggestion.  I too am partial to Bennett.  Bennett James 'Benji' sounds terrific to me, but of course there are a host of J names that would work as well, almost limitless choice: Joseph, Jared, Jordan, Jesse, Jason, Jacob, Jay, Joshua, Jeffrey, Jude, Jeremy, Jerome (which I rather like with Bennett), Joel, Julian, Jonah/Jonas, Jonathan, Justin, Justus, and many others.

July 23, 2015 3:39 PM

I really, really like Benedict James! I wonder if Benedict will become more popular with Benedict Cumberbatch's popularity?

July 23, 2015 2:56 PM

Apparently Benjamin was the guy his first girlfriend cheated on him with for over two years, so that's probably a bit hard to get over and I can understand he wouldn't want his son to be named after that guy. But I personally love the suggestion of giving him a name that starts with Ben and a J middle name! I think Bennett James nn Benji sounds fantastic! I told my friend about it and she loved it too. She fell in love with Bennett so it seemed, she said she'd suggest it to her husband tonight. We both think he's going to love it too as it's pretty much his style. She also asked me what other J names you might like with Bennett as potential middle names? She was very keen on Bennett James, but wants to see what other options there could be. She also likes Jackson, but wasn't sure if it flows well as a middle name? I think it flows just fine, but I personally would prefer James over Jackson. And it does make me think a bit of Janet Jackson... :P



July 23, 2015 4:13 PM

I do like Bennett James better than Jackson. Some other J middles I think could work are John, Jack, Joseph, Jasper.

I also really like the suggestion of Bennet G.  It makes the nickname even more obvious I think, and it could be written Ben G. if she wanted to.  It also opens up a lot more middle name options.  Gregory, George, Gavin, etc.

July 23, 2015 3:36 PM

I think you can use Ben G to get Benji also.  Benedict Gregory?

July 23, 2015 4:28 PM

Oh that's right, G is another good option! I'll let her know!

I don't know much about names and naming styles (mine for example is quite mixed, I don't really have a real naming style there I think), but looking at her children's names it seems like they use rather uncommon (but also not too rare) first names with classic middle names. Their first two are Jordan Matthew and Isobel Catherine. So I think Bennett James or Bennett George would be perfect fits (at least in my eyes), but in the end it's up to them :)

July 23, 2015 4:36 PM

James and George are my top to for them as well. With the strong T sound in both the first and last name, the softness of James or George would be very nice!

July 24, 2015 12:38 AM

Since they already have a child with a J name, using a G name would give all the kids completely unique initials, which might be cool. Otherwise, J is an incredibly common initial, so perhaps they could find one in their family tree they'd like to honor of they decide against James and George.