Should I take his name?
Lately I've been wondering if I should take my husband's last name. We have been married for four years and have two kids. The kids have hyphenated last names. With my oldest on the way to starting Kindergarten I've been realizing that her last name is going to be a huge pain in the neck. It's incredibly long and hard to spell. It will never fit on a cubby or lunch box. So I'm thinking about how much easier it would be if the kids had Dad's last name only.
But then I don't want everyone to have the same last name except for me. I think I'd feel left out. But is it a little weird to make these changes at this point? Should I just stick with what we've already done? At the time we got married, it was a feminist thing for me not to do the traditional thing (we are not very traditional people and it took a lot of debate and soul-searching to decide to get married at all) but now I'm more focused on smooth waters for our family as a group. I'm not too worried about career implications as none of my jobs have involved name recognition.
The other complication is that when I was 24, I legally changed my first name. So if I change my last name too, I'll have nothing left (except middles) of the name my parents gave me when I was born. Not sure how they will feel about that.
Sun, 07/15/2012 - 5:49pm