Stuck Between Names

Hello everyone, I am a trans man (female to male) changing my name and have been stuck between the same two for months. My last name is German, similar to Berner. 
Maximilian, Max for short, which sounds great with my last name, and I love long names with short nicknames. 
Shane, which I like better on it's own but doesn't sound great with my last name and feels too short. 
Which do y'all like better? Thanks for the help!


May 20, 2019 12:19 AM

Shane is a good name, but I like Maximilian, for the simple fact that I've never met one.  It's got a great nn, Max, as you mentioned, but I also think it it's completely fantastic in it's long form.  Do you have thoughts on middle names at all?  

May 20, 2019 12:27 AM

I love how Maximilian sounds, worried it might come off as pretentious though. Possibly Vincent or Avery for a middle name 

May 20, 2019 3:24 AM

I think max, Maximillian, maxim would be nice

May 20, 2019 11:57 AM

How much more do you like Shane on its own? I think the flow with your stand-in surname is fine, even if not quite as mellifluous as a longer name would be. And most of the time you'll be hearing just the first/call name, other than waiting rooms and such (or else Mr. Berner, without the first name). So if you have a pretty big preference for Shane I would go with that. If it's only a tiny difference, and the flow would bother you tremendously, then I'd give the nod to Max.

Alternatively, have you considered looking for a longer form for Shane? Charlemagne/Shane has a similar flow with your last name to Maximilian/Max, or Shannon/Shane would keep you in the Irish realm for first name. And other folks might have other ideas if that's a direction you're interested in taking.

Overall, both Maximilian/Max and Shane are great, so you really can't go wrong.

May 20, 2019 3:08 PM

Shannon is good or Shandon, Shanahan, Maxton, madden, Maxwell

May 20, 2019 5:32 PM

I greatly prefer Maximilian/Max to Shane.


I don't see Maximus or Macsen mentioned as options.  Malcolm and Magnus also come to mind, although Mac may be better suited to these (Malcolm anyway).


I get where you're coming from with feeling like Maximilian could come off as pretentious, but it's just so much fun to say!  And, hey, it's not like you're choosing Maximilianus... which I could totally get behind if you were. :)

May 22, 2019 11:19 AM

Our godson is Maximilian (with a one-syllable highly ubiquitous surname), and while he's got serious challenges (pretty severe autism), he loves having a long name with a short, easy nickname. (He wrote out his full name in toothpicks when he was three.)

May 28, 2019 10:57 PM

I would go with Maximiliian - it allows for using the full name for formalities but also the shortened version of Max for general use :)