Third trimester and feeling the naming pressure

I feel no closer to a name now than a did months ago, possibly further away.  Baby's sex will be a surprise and this time around I'd like to have a name decided for each before the baby arrives.

Big brothers are Row@an Thomas and Osr1c William.


For a girl, I'm still leaning towards first name Ruth, but I'm still open to changing my mind.  It was my mother's name, so if we don't use Ruth for the first name, it will be the middle name.  Favorites right now ..

Beatrix Ruth (was our pick for a girl when O was born)

Silvia Ruth

Zinnia Ruth

Ruth Andrasta

Ruth Iolanthe


For a boy, I tend to favor "family" names for a MN but we've already given both family names that are especially meaningful.  MN would likely be Edward, James, or Charles but I'm open to other classic names.  For a given name my current short list is ...








March 20, 2016 9:55 AM

I love your style! (I'm mentally jumping with joy over the thought of actual children with your sons' names, especially O.) I really think you can't go wrong with any of your choices, but I know that that's not at all helpful, so...

Unique first initials among siblings can be a good thing, but this would move your mom's name to the middle, and I don't think the initial should outweigh the honor, especially not for different-gendered siblings. Ruth Iolanthe is lovely and intriguing and my favorite on the list, although I'm also interested in Andrasta: is this a family name? I've never encountered it before.

Of your boy's names, I like Arthur best with your other two. For a middle name, have you considered a cross-gender honor name? Many feminine names have masculine counterparts, or at least names with some of the same "parts" (like Elliott to honor an Elizabeth). To honor Ruth with a boy's name, I came up with Esmond, which is derived from Old English words meaning 'grace' and 'protection'; this is at least vaguely related to the meaning of ruth 'mercy, compassion'. Even further afield, you could use Charles as an honor name for Ruth, based on the Greek word/name Chares meaning 'grace, kindness'. It's not related to Charles in any way, but it's only one letter off...

March 20, 2016 10:27 AM

Thanks ... O was one of a list of 5 boy names when he was born.  I'd figured we would have a little while until we needed to actually decide.  But we had some minor complications and they wanted a name RIGHT NOW and that's the name that just popped into my head.  It fits him really well.


Andrasta is a goddess name -- I just love the sound and meaning but there's no connection.  MNs are so seldom used, I figured we could go anywhere if we're using a given name that's more plain.


I love the idea of using a tribute name for Ruth as the MN for a boy, but I just always feel like it's stretching when I don't literally use the same name.  It's silly, I know.  I do like the name Charles and love that there is a bit of a connection, though.



March 22, 2016 11:23 AM

A thought just occurred to me: Arthur essentially ends in Ruth, only backwards.

April 3, 2016 9:23 AM

I never noticed that.  Thank you!


March 20, 2016 10:15 AM

My special characters threw me ... my son's name is Row@n, not Row@an .. lol.


March 20, 2016 5:54 PM

From the girls list, with Ruth as a middle, I really like Beatrix Ruth.  I am also very intrigued by Ruth Androsta-it would be my top pick.

From your boy list, I love Arthur.  Rhys is my 2nd favorite.  

I love cross-gender namesakes.  If there isn't a direct feminine/masculine version (like Charles/Charlotte) I'd probably look for something that shares the dominant sounds.  I think it make the namesake seem more obvious to most people.  For Ruth, I'd probably look at something like Reuben, Rudy, or Rupert.  I might also consider Rue, especially if your Ruth was ever called that as a nickname. 

March 21, 2016 6:04 PM

Zinnia is very pretty, the nn Zin is actually brillaint 

I favor Calvin as far as your boys list goes 

Good luck with it all :)

March 21, 2016 7:37 PM

I love most of these! I love Ruth, and I think you can't go wrong with that as your first name choice. I like Everett or Calvin for your boy choices. I love Everett Charles the most- it sounds so strong and classic! I also really like Everett James or Calvin James.

April 2, 2016 9:39 AM

I can't seem to stick with any one favorite, though I'm bouncing back and forth between a couple.


This week at least, I want to stick with Ruth.  A friend recommended Ruth Beatrix and I finally realized the reason I'm meh about it is because I thought so long about Beatrix Ruth that changing the order just sounds odd to me.  But apparently everyone else thinks it flows nicely.  LOL


With boy names my top two are probably Arthur James and Calvin James (Everett was my top pick but he's on the outs this week).


DH has largely ceded name selection to me.  He's not enthusiastic about Ruth but can get behind it, especially as a namesake.  He seems to marginally prefer Arthur to Calvin.  He's the kind of guy who is either okay with a name or not okay with it but doesn't agonize over picking one okay name over another okay name.  He's very strange .. LOL


Now why are the last couple of months SOOOOO LOOOOOONG??


April 2, 2016 1:19 PM

I think Ruth Beatrix is great. 

I will also point out that you can do Beatrix Ruth and call her Ruth.

I know that is a point of some controversy on here, but I know many children who are only ever called by their mns, and it's never been a problem.

I love Silvia, mainly for Sylvie, but the fact that Ruth is a namesake makes me give it the edge. I also think it's a great name in its own right. I think what I like about it for you is that it's a very strong name. I can't imagine a Ruth ever suffering fools gladly. 

I think Beatrix is a fine match for you. I'm one of the only people on this site who just doesn't love the sound of it. 

I aodre Calvin, and I think it's a very underused name. Arthur is a tad to the musty side for me still, but I think it would be a fine choice for you.

I like both Rhys and Everett quite a lot, but I think Rhys is a shade too prep school and Everett is perhaps a wee bit....conventional? I could definitely get behind either, though.

I'm just not a fan of Edgar.

Hang in there! 

April 4, 2016 7:41 AM

I've thought about Beatrix Ruth and just using Ruth.  I'm not strongly against calling by a middle name but usually I've seen it when there are shared family first names, reflecting cultural heritage, or something like that.  So outside of specific reasons like that, I fall on the side of just using the first name.  



April 3, 2016 4:38 PM

I think Ruth is a solid name that goes with everything like Jane or Marie whether it's first or mn.

When I read on a different thread earlier that you listed Beatrix and Silvia as favorite names I thought, "she has good namesense." 

I know you said Everett is on it's way out but I'll cast my vote for him anyway.  I think Everett is comfortable in any name circle just like Ruth.  

My runner up for baby girl is Zinnia (This reminds me of a girl in my daughters class named Azalea.  Love it!)  Baby boy runners up are Calvin and Arthur in no perticular order, well maybe Calvin is slightly ahead.

   Good luck and congratulations!

April 4, 2016 7:37 AM

Thank you.  My one problem with Zinnia is about half the time people hear Xena (as in Warrior Princess).  I love botanical names and the flower itself.  Plus my mother really loved plants and flowers, mostly roses, but others too so Zinnia Ruth really speaks to me.  I love Azalea too, btw.


Everett has stuck around for a long time.  It was the "runner up" when we named our eldest more than 8 years ago.  It's a nice solid name but it seems less interesting compared with names like Arthur or Calvin.  Of course it's a bit more in DH's comfort zone and, while he says he's fine with either, I wouldn't be shocked if he throws a flag at the last minute. :)