Very last list!

Hi all

The day we meet baby is so close now really excited! Boys name decided on but girls still escaping us. This is our final list: Nora, Esmé, Sadie, Tess, Aubrey. I was just wondering if you could give me your honest thoughts on these names good or bad. The second name has to be Mary and our surname is nine letters long beginning with K. Would really appreciate any help, many thanks


September 18, 2014 8:55 AM

I've never cared for Aubrey, but all your other names are favorites of mine! Great taste! 

I think Nora Mary sounds the best to me -- Esme Mary has the two M's too close together imo; Sadie Mary is singsongy, but would get my second vote; Tess Mary sounds sort of incomplete or abrupt or something, but would get my third vote; Aubrey Mary sounds fine but I really like your other names so much better. Good luck!

September 18, 2014 10:10 AM

I really like all of the names on your list.  Since you've got so many nice choices, my comments are going to be a little nitpicky, but hopefully they'll help you narrow things down.

I'm not crazy about the repeated "ee" endings of Esme Mary, Sadie Mary and Aubrey Mary, so I'd probably eliminate those. I could get behind Sarah Mary, with Sadie as the nickname. 

Tess Mary sounds choppy to my ear, so I'd also eliminate Tess.  I do think Tessa Mary has a much nicer flow, if that's something you are willing to consider.

Nora Mary is very pretty and I think the flow of this one is much nicer than your other options.


September 18, 2014 10:55 AM

I can see why you're having trouble, because you have a darling list. 

I think it might take some of the pressure off if you concentrate on getting it down to two that you could take to the hospital. If she doesn't clearly look like one or the other, the nurses are always glad to vote! 

I'm not personally a fan of Aubrey, and I find both it and Sadie a bit trendy/lightweight next to your other choices. 

Tess does seem a bit spare to me. Is Tessa clearly out? 

I adore the name Esme, and I've always wondered why it isn't more popular. I believe it's a "Twilight," name, which I find off putting, though it may not matter to you. Hopefully that franchise will fade from our collective memory soon (Please!!)

Nora is a beautiful classic with spunk and charm. It's probably my overall favorite of this group, and I do think it's the best with Mary. It does seem to be getting somewhat popular out here. Though that wouldn't rule it out for me, if you're looking for points on which to quibble, you could always check the stats for each of your choices. 



September 18, 2014 12:26 PM

I agree with the others that Nora sounds best with Mary and it's actually my second favorite name from your list. My favorite is Tess, but I'd much prefer Tessa Mary or Teresa Mary or Estella Mary called Tess. (I love Estella nn Tess because it gets two of my favorites in there!)

Can I ask what boy's name you've decided on? Congrats and good luck!

September 18, 2014 1:08 PM

My choice as far as the best first name is Tess. 


Tess Mary doesn't sound great to my ear so with Mary I would have to pick Nora. 



By mk
September 18, 2014 1:17 PM

Esmé is one of my favorite names, so that's my pick. I could not care less about the fact some character in Twilight has that name.

I've never been a fan of Tess. It look unfinished to me (Theresa though would be very pretty). I also prefer Audrey over Aubrey, that one letter change makes a difference to me.

So Nora would be my second choice.


September 18, 2014 1:48 PM

I agree with a lot of the comments made. I'm not a fan of the repeated "ee" sound. I like Tess the most but I'm obviously not the first to suggest Tessa. You could call her Tess for short. Second favorite is Nora. Altho I'm used to it having an 'h' at the end. Probably because Norah Jones. I love all your names but don't think the other three sound particularly good with Mary. 

September 18, 2014 3:27 PM

My views are in line with the group--I'm not a fan of Aubrey on a girl, think Tessa flows better than Tess, and don't care for the repeated -ee sound. Two things, though:

1. Esmé to me is ez-may, not ez-mee, so it doesn't bother me with Mary as much as Sadie and Aubrey.

2. Does the 2nd name have to be Mary, or does it have to honor Mary? I could see any of your choices flowing beautifully with Marie. I don't find the dah-duh dah-duh flow of any of the names with Mary euphonious, but of course if you must use that form you must.

September 18, 2014 5:06 PM

Many thanks everybody for all your honest help. Aubrey was indeed our least favourite choice so has been eliminated. The second name Mary is not going to be used day to day it is to honour my aunt, we and close family will know it's there. Sadie  has been on my list since my first baby was due 7 years ago is it just that it's been in my head too long? Tess is a new arrival I like its snappiness  i just don't have the same love for Tessa. Esmé (indeed esmay) came to me recently but hubby is been put off by a child in a tv programme he watched . Nora was an old family name on my dads side of the family. Our boys name we have picked is Rowan and we already have Luke, Milo and Arthur here with us. 

October 3, 2014 6:01 PM

Hello again

I am now waiting patiently here for baby 40 weeks, everything ready and actually creating new lists of things to do to keep busy! Have finally managed to eliminate the names Esme, Aubrey and Tess. So it's Sadie and Nora(h) left. Rowan is my boys name, but have also begun to seriously consider it for either girl or boy? Any final thoughts to help please really appreciated as nearly there. If Nora is Norah or Nora better in your opinion thanks again

October 3, 2014 6:22 PM

As a Sarah with an H, I've always preferred Norah over Nora in terms of esthetics. I'm probably biased, but I think it looks more complete :) I like Rowan for a boy, but generally don't care for crossover names so I'd vote Nora(h) for sure! The gender issue is very personal though, and I don't think it would be weird at all to see a little girl named Rowan... I just prefer it (and other traditionally male) names on boys. Good luck with the birth and decision!

By EVie
October 3, 2014 10:18 PM

I much prefer Nora without the h. Norah has sprung up in popularity since Norah Jones came on the music scene back in 2002, but Nora is historically the correct spelling of the name; Norah is a creative variant (it saw some very minor use in the late 19th century, but Nora was the dominant spelling by a mile). Names that are traditionally spelled with an -ah ending like Sarah, Leah, Deborah, etc. are all Hebrew in origin, and the spelling reflects an actual difference in the original Hebrew: names that end in -ah use a different Hebrew letter than ones that end in -a (Ezra, Joshua, etc.). Nora isn't a Hebrew name, though--it's a diminutive of Eleanor, which is of Occitan origin. I don't see the point in complicating the spelling of a name that is already very pretty with a silent letter that doesn't have any historical justification for being there.

Sadie is a very sweet name as well, and I think Sadie and Nora are both nice choices, but I would probably go with Nora, as I think it stands up better as a full name--Sadie is a bit nicknamey for my tastes.

October 3, 2014 11:40 PM

Of these options my choice would be Nora, with no H, by a mile. I like Sadie fine, I have a niece named Sadie, but with Mary and siblings I think Nora is the best. 

Rowan actually swings female for me, I just know more girl Rowans, but I still prefer Nora for you. 

Good luck! That waiting at 40 weeks can really be trying I know. 

October 4, 2014 12:10 PM

Thank you so much everybody for all your honest and kind advice, you have definitely sorted  out some questions I had in my mind. Tess I still love but during research recently found it is the same as another family members name so can't consider.  I def was always loving Nora more than Norah and always felt it is indeed best with Mary. Sadie is a bit trendy these days but has been on our list for the last 7 years. Rowan will be the boys name should he arrive if it's a girl I think it's  going to be is she a Nora or a Sadie! Thanks again for being so great

October 3, 2014 10:01 PM

I love Sadie, Tess, and Esme in this order.

October 18, 2014 12:52 AM


Just to thank everybody again for all the naming advice and help. Our beautiful daughter joined us on 14th Oct and we named her Sadie! 

October 18, 2014 1:45 AM

Great choice!  I love Sadie, and I agree that middle names aren't used often enough to be the deciding factor.  I think the names flow fine together. Congratulations! 

October 18, 2014 1:49 AM

Congratulations! Sadie is a darling name. Thanks for letting us know. :)

October 18, 2014 3:08 PM

One of my all time favorite names - congratulations!