We need another M name!

Hiya everyone - some of you may remember me as I keep coming back whenever there's another baby on the way! Every now and then I return as a silent reader, but my four girls usually keep me quite busy. And yes - we are now expecting baby number 5. I never thought I'd end up having 5 children, but life is full of surprises! So - we have another baby to name! 

For those of you who don't know or don't remember: all of our girls' names start with the letter M - it's a family tradition. We slightly broke it last time around with our twin girls, since we thought they'll be sharing so much, they should at least have their own initials. So we named them Leonora Marlene and Charlotte Marianne, but they go by their first names. My eldest daughters are Matilda and Maisie. Although I am secretly hoping for a boy this time around, I have a feeling we're having another girl! (Of course we'll be thrilled either way)

My first question for you guys is... since I've already sort of "broken" the tradition once, do you think it'd be okay to do that again? Pick any first name we love and then a middle name starting with an M? Coincidentally the name I love the most at the moment actually does start with an M, but my husband isn't sold. It's Milla. I just love it, but he's not convinced yet. Do you think it'd fit well with my other daughters' names? Other names currently on the list are Meredith, Anneli, Aurora, Clementine

For a boy my favourite M name at the moment is Maxwell, but there seems to be no boy name I really LOVE?! Neither starting with an M nor with any other letter. Are there any boys names you could recommend based on my daughters names?! I'm lost. 




January 6, 2019 3:58 PM

Maxwell is nice. You could probably break the tradition, especially if you have a boy. You could give the new baby an M first name, so the twins would be different, or an M middle name, so your older girls would have something in common. I really like Aurora and Clementine.




















































January 6, 2019 5:17 PM

I remember reading your journey naming your twins (when I was lurking). I think you are definitely not bound to using an M name this time unless you (and your husband!) really love it.


Regarding Milla, it could easily be a nn for something else your husband might like better. Camilla, Millicent, Amelia or Emilia, Milana or Milena .. any of these would be a great sister to your girls.


Maxwell is a fine name, but ideally you want something that you love (though i'm sure if you did use it for your son you would grow to love it). Your girls give me a gentle, slightly old-fashioned vibe, so along those lines: Marcus, Merritt or Miles for an M name, or something like Colin, Henry or Theodore (maybe not with Leonora - maybe just Theo then?)

January 6, 2019 7:49 PM

I think you could use the M name as a middle and just pick any letter except C, l or m for the first name.  Anneli is pretty. Amelia NN Milla.  Audrey Eliza Francine georgiana Heidi Josephine  Natalie Olivene Phoebe Penelope Susannah Tessa Victoria Isabel Gabrielle Evelyn Evangeline delphine Helena Elspeth hazel Elsie Imogen Lucinda gevieve Vivienne Beatrice Alice Sophie Stella Ava ruby  

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January 6, 2019 7:43 PM

I think my preference is to not use an M first name this time.  Using another M name kind of sets the twins apart as being different from the rest of their siblings.  In your situation, I think I would use an M middle name and reframe the tradition as "everyone gets one M name" with the assumption being it was simply a coincidence that the first two kids got M first names.

However, I do like the previous suggestion of something like Camilla or Amelia with Milla as the nickname.  It keeps the theme as "everyone gets an M name" but also allows some wiggle room because there is more than one way for everyone to have an M.

January 6, 2019 10:10 PM

Once is chance, twice is coincidence, and three times is a trend. ;-)

You have fourkids. Two have "M" names, just half. No one would hear the kids' names and think you have an "M" tradition, even if they heard the twins' middle names. In other words, you are free to choose any name you guys like and, if it matters to you, one that is harmonious with the other names.

I generally agree with the "avoid L, M, and C" idea because you already have those names. I was thinking yesterday about how glad I am that my four each have a different first initial, because I shorten it to that first initial in so many texts/emails/PMs to friends and family and it's always clear. Nevertheless, because the other concern with same initials is the "call" factor when speaking their names aloud, I make an exception for a letter like "C" that has so many different sounds. Mainly I say this because I love the suggestion of Camilla, whether or not you use the nn Milla, and its /k/ start won't conflict with the /sh/ of Charlotte when you're yelling an assortment of names.

Find what you love!

January 7, 2019 2:33 PM

The more I think about it, the more I like the idea for you of Milla as a nickname for a longer, non-M name, and then a meaningful middle of whatever initial it happens to have. Is there any cultural connection in your family that would make Ludmilla fit? Otherwise, Camilla is pretty, but anything with both an 'm' and an 'l' could lead fairly naturally to Milla: Amelia, Emilia, Emily, Camelia, Emmeline. But Milla as a standalone also fits well with your children's names, if you can sway your other half...

NameMatchmaker was being singularly unhelpful in suggesting M names for boys. I lost track of how many screenfuls I had to click through to get Martin, Moses and Marcellus. (I used various combinations of your daughters' names.)

January 7, 2019 6:08 PM

You have two kids with M first names and two kids with M middle names.  I love the idea of giving the next one an M nickname (such as Camilla "Milla").

You could also choose an Em name, such as Emily, Emmeline, Emilia, or Emma as another way of branching out.


I'm wondering, though, if you meant to say that your twins go by their middle names, rather than their first names?  That makes more sense in the context of your question.

January 7, 2019 10:42 PM

I do like the idea of an M nickname for you, so I was trying to think of names that start with other letters but with an M nickname. For girls: Amanda nn Mandy, Araminta nn Minty, Wilhemina or Jasmina nn Mina or Minnie, Jemima or Imogen nn Mimi, Amalia nn Molly


For boys the only one I can think of Emmanuel nn Manny, or maybe Cormac nn Mac. Not sure if these are your style.


I also like the "Em" possibilities, especially Emilia, Emmeline that could have Milla as a nn. Another thought is Romilly, which I like with your girls' names.

January 7, 2019 11:20 PM

throwing Emmett out there for a boye

January 9, 2019 3:33 PM

Actually they go by nicknames based on their first names. I know it sounds like it doesn't make a lot of sense. The tradition of using the same initials for all of your children is actually from my husband's side of the family. My mother in law is very sweet, but I still don't want to offend her or be the only one who is not carrying on the tradition while all of my husband's siblings are. I guess in my mind I already decided we'd be breaking or say... "adapting" the tradition once again, but I think I sort of needed reassurance that it'd be okay! haha

January 9, 2019 3:18 PM

I really like the idea of using a name that leads itself to a nickname starting with an M! This way we have two kids whose first name start with an M, two with a middle and one with a nickname. My husband joked if we have another, we could have two "of each" and it'd be the perfect pattern. I didn't laugh!! This one is my last! 

The reason why my husband nixed Milla was mainly because he said it felt incomplete to him. So he likes the idea of using Milla as a nickname. I think my favourite off the ones you have suggested is Amelia! I've always loved that name. My husband likes it a lot, but isn't sure if it's "the one". I think Amelia nn Milla is really sweet and I think it fits well with our daughters' names.If we can't find one we love enough, I think we'll just go back to using an M name in the middle name spot like we did with the twins. It still honours the tradition and I'm getting to a point where I just don't want to make this whole naming process any more complicated than it already is. Anneli has really grown on us. Do you think it's too different from our girls' names? I've also seen various spellings and I'm not sure which one is the most intuitive

Oh and using an Em name was also a great suggestion! Emmett is a lovely name, the only thing bothering me is that it sounds so similar to Charlotte. Theo is also a beautiful name... does Theo Maxwell flow well? I'm not sure, but somehow I really like it

January 9, 2019 6:06 PM

You could use Emilia for a two-fer--she could be nicknamed Milla or Em as the mood strikes you :).

Similarly, Emilio or Emil(e) would give you an Em- name and nickname Milo or Milio. I wouldn't suggest it if you wanted to "save" Amelia/Milla, but if this is your last baby that's not a consideration.

January 9, 2019 6:14 PM

I think using a name with an M nickname is a great idea! You get to keep the tradition in your own way, and you don't have to decide which 'set' of names to put this baby with. Great that your husband would be on board with one of your favourites as a nickname too, has he got any suggestions for the longer name?

Anneli doesn't give me the exact same vibe as your older girls' names but I don't think that matters too much and in any case it's not so different that it feels wildly out of place. As for what spelling would be most intuitive I guess that depends how you are pronouncing it? I would guess at Anneli being something like ANN-eh-lee but could change quite easily to AHN-nee-lee.

For me Emmett and Charlotte are not really similar in sound but I guess that could be down to accent and you'd be the one living with it so if it's too similar to you it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. Theo Maxwell flows really well to me, I really like how the lighter more playful Theo balances with the heavier Maxwell. 

January 10, 2019 8:40 AM

we pronounce it ANN-eh-lee. I’ve seen spellings like Anneli, Annelie, Annalie... but since it’s such an unusual name (at least where we live) I couldn’t possibly tell shich spelling is the most common or most intuitive one. 

I also get a different vibe from it compared to our daughters’ names, but it’s a name we both seem to love equally (which is rare), so we’ll keep it on the list for now. 

January 10, 2019 6:34 PM

I think it's probably a rare name most places, which means you can likely choose the spelling you prefer without extra problems as long as it's not something really crazy (which none of the ones you listed are). Personally I much prefer the look of Anneli with Annelie second place; Annalie is getting too close to looking like two names stuck together to me which I don't care for. [If it matters at all to you Behind the Name lists Anneli as a Finnish diminutive of Anna and Annelie as a short form of Anneliese.]

I forgot to say that between you liking both Amelia and Anneli you might consider Amelie as it shares sounds with both (it's the French form of Amelia). It would be slightly more of a stretch to get to Milla as Millie is probably a bit more intuitive but with the way I nickname Millie->Milla would be an easy transition so it works for me. 

January 11, 2019 6:33 AM

Amelia is a beautiful choice and I agree with others that “an M somewhere in the name” is a great compromise.  I think it sounds lovely with your other daughters’ names.  


Emmett is a great name but I can understand your concern with sister Charlotte. If you are happy using Maxwell or another M name as a middle for a boy, what are you and your husband’s favorite boy names? Theo? Theo Maxwell? Sounds good to my ears. 

January 11, 2019 4:39 PM

I think Amelia or Emilia is a great choice for you - it's a good fit with your other girls' names, and perfect that you can use Milla for short. However I also like Natasha Rhiannon's suggestion of Amelie (and I like the sound of Anneli too, but share your hesitation on the spelling. I'd probably go for Annelie).


Theo Maxwell sounds great! And Emmett and Charlotte aren't too close for me, especially if (as I understand it) Charlotte goes by a nickname?

January 16, 2019 5:54 PM

Firstly as a fellow Maisie I am glad you like the name. (Again is it sounds weird SUPER pregnant!) Secondly I Love Milla and Meredith. I also quite like Anneli, but it’s not my favourite. I think it comes down to wether or not you like the name to as if you will change the tradition. If you love Clementine for example but feel inclined to use Meredith, always use the name you love. If you would like other M suggestions, here they are...






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January 17, 2019 4:45 AM

You already have a lot of great suggestions including that it's perfectly fine to not use and M name. But I wanted to jump in with how much I LOVE Maxwell and would use it with the nn Wells so it's the opposite of what others are saying - M name with non-M nn.

I like Miles or Morris as other boy M names. I also love Clemantine for a girl!

February 12, 2019 8:13 PM

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