What does the future hold?
This is something that I've been wondering about for a while now and it's not something that can be answered without the experience of having had children. Therefore, I'm looking to you, the people who understand where I'm coming from, for answers: Does being somewhat name-obsessed take the fun out of actually naming a baby? Does being so aware of the trends amplify their importance beyond their merit? Does preparing lists of names years in advance mean that it's a let-down when I actually get to make a list for real because the exploration has already been done?
I can imagine the excitement of new parents-to-be as they buy a book or begin internet searches for the first time and I wonder if I will have anything like that myself. I've already explored. I've already pictured a variety of names on my hypothetical progeny. I've already fallen in and out of love with names so many times that I wonder if I would still be in love with these names if I had not had years to think about them and get sick of them. I'm not afraid that I'll get sick of whatever name I ultimately choose, but I do lament the loss of some names that used to feel beautiful but now feel old and dull. If I've been thinking about a name and then I start seeing it all over people's lists and suggestions, then the name begins feeling a bit... mundane. Less new and exciting to me. And exposure within my own head seems to have a similar effect in that the longer I've been thinking about a name, the more likely I am to become bored with it. And the thing is, I'm not a fickle person of ever-changing likes, so this whole experience is quite unfamiliar and disconcerting to me. I know that some of the problem stems from the fact that I plan on choosing English names primarily based on style and not as honour names. The Hebrew names that I've chosen are in honour of beloved, deceased relatives and those names don't ever lose their lustre, but neither my nor my husband's family tree offers any English names that interest me.
So, please tell me, Oh Wise Ones. Am I over-thinking things? Will the fun return when I'm actually naming a real baby? I mean, I know that the experience will be completely different and it will develop a kind of excitement that I have yet to experience, but is it mostly more stressful and frustrating or will the non-hypothetical nature of the process make my spreadsheet making feel new again? I assume that it will, but I'd like to hear about the experiences of other list-making, name-obsessed people to see what I may have in store for me :)
Tue, 09/18/2012 - 2:10pm