When to weigh popularity with preference
Hi there! I'm 14 weeks with my first child. We're not sure whether we will find out the sex or not. Right now, we're pretty well in agreement on a boy name but have a list of similar girl names that neither of us are sure we are in love with.
I consider the name choice of utmost importance and have been interested in names for years. Over the years my tastes have always tended to gravitate to names that subsequently blow up in popularity and then I abandon them. So frustrating. I want our choices to carry meaning for our children and offer them a unique identity without being too out there. The way the name looks and more importantly feels to say are also factors I'm considering. Something with long lasting appeal is most important. I don't like names that are too trendy and would prefer something with literary or artistic connotations.
Hubby seems to share similar tastes (mostly antique charm and biblical), but definitely gravitates to names that feel familiar to him yet is very influenced to avoid names that remind him of people from his childhood.
I would like to avoid a name that reads too ethnic specific, as our backgrounds are quite mixed: I'm Norwegian Italian and hubby is an adopted Korean with a German last name. It's a harsh sounding single-syllable name starting with R, and I find it hard to make most names sound nice with it. The first name needs to have a minimum of two syllables and avoid the letter R.
In addition, we are considering the addition of a second middle name to honor hubby's heritage. The name is Lee and would not necessarily be used for a girl but hopefully for a boy.
For the boy name, we are considering Leo as a top choice. Others on the lists have included Isaac, Silas, Levi, Henry, and Milo. I like the friendly sound of names like Sam, Max, and Jack, but they feel overused to me now.
For the girl name, Olivia has been a top contender for both of us for a long time... But I'm worried how popular it is right now. Its beginning to feel too run-of-the-mill as a result, rather than special. Whereas my second choice Amelia is much lower on the popularity list, but likely climbing. I also like how the middle name Frances sounds with Amelia better than with Olivia.
Other girl names on our lists that we can't agree on are: Caroline, Isabel, Phoebe, Laurel, Grace, Hannah, Madeline, Sophie.
My question is, at what point do you ignore the name charts and how do you tell a name will continue to appeal to you over time? Also any suggestions for first/middle pairings or alternate suggestions are more than welcome!!
Tue, 03/26/2013 - 7:21pm