(yet more) dithering about Hermione
I'm sure that all the old-timers are totally sick of this endless dithering and have all spoken their piece already years ago... in which case, feel free to move along: nothing new to see here, I promise!
We have long loved the name Hermione, and thought it would be an obvious first choice for a girl child, but now that we're actually expecting said girl this fall, we're increasingly unsure about whether we feel comfortable condemning a real live child to a lifetime of "Oh, like Harry Potter, ha ha ha" comments. I'd expect these to be particularly prevalent since our last name starts with a hard-G sound (like that of a certain fictional Hermione), and we are increasingly secure in the knowledge (based on current n=2 sample size) that our kids are likely to feature bushy brown hair and bookish, know-it-all attitudes.
While we generally think of Harry Potter as a positive association, and the character Hermione as a good role model in many regards, the fact that it's such a big and dominant SOLE association means that it might end up a constant point of conversation. I can see how it might wear thin, especially since there aren't any good nicknames to seek refuge in, either. (Hero? Minnie?)
Everyone we've talked to about is has had very conflicted hand-wringing reaction as well: "Well, that's definitely a problem, eh? but maybe on further thought it SHOULDN'T be a problem, and it's such a beautiful name, so maybe I do want you to be able to use it..."
However, that the knee-jerk first response tends to be a "no, not useable" is hard to overlook. I find it a big hurdle to overcome, because it means that our daughter would be tackling that hurdle anew each time she introduces herself to someone. It was also our first reaction, and while we try to talk ourselves out of it regularly, I just don't think we can actually do it.
We do have another name that we like equally well, and so I think it's likely that we'll end up taking that, more nickname-filled, less conspicuously literary route. But! It is such a hard thing to take a favorite name off the list when it's nothing wrong with the name itself! When MAYBE it wouldn't be a problem after all! Maybe in ten years we'll be having to dodge copies of Harry Potter aimed at our heads by a Thomasina who is livid that we didn't name her Hermione!
Goodness, it would be very helpful to have a view into the future - even just for a momentary glimpse!
Thu, 04/25/2013 - 2:53am