No favorite names yet.
I was torn on this too but have gone with the middle option of sharing it with close family and friends only until the birth all three times, with the caveat that I reserve the right to change it when the baby arrives. I know a few people who go out and monnogram everything and announce on social media as soon as they find out the gender, but I just can't do that! I'm generally pretty private anyway. It doesn't bother me when other people do it, I just think it's wierd!
I HATE the fake name thing, like when you ask someone and they give you a fake name as if that's the real name. I think it's rude. If you don't want to tell just say that you haven't decided for sure or that you don't want to tell!
Did you have a specific name or a very short list before the baby's birth or were you unsure yourself what you'd choose?
With my first I had a short list for boys and girls, but when we found out it was a boy we decided on a name for sure. Unfortunately it was a IV name that I wasn't fond of, and I had a lot of angst over picking out a nickname after he was born! With my second we didn't find out the gender ahead of time, so I had narrowed it down to one boy name and two girl names over the course of the pregnancy, but he was a boy and I didn't have to make a last minute choice! With this pregnancy, I had decided on a boy name as soon as I got pregnant, but found out that it is a girl! The day I found out the gender, a name I had never considered popped up when my husband and I were talking about names and has been the frontrunner ever since!
Did you expect pushback or other negativity over the name choice?
With my second son I did have a lot of pushback and negativity from relatives who ALSO wanted to use that name (a very common name AND a family name) I eventally told everyone tough luck, used it anyway, and shut down attempts at unwanted nicknames.
Did you expect excitement or other positivity over the name choice?
With my sons, I was expecting positivity for the boy names since they were traditional family names. With my current pregnancy I was much more worried about people's reactions because the name I've fallen in love with seems to have come out of nowhere and wasn't even on my list of possibilities during my first two pregnancies. Fortunately the reactions have been positive from the people I have shared it with.
Did you have a specific motivation, a general disposition, or a default you fell into for your choice to disclose or not?
With this pregnancy I was more worried that someone would ruin the name for me, so I was planning on only a select few, but since they had positive reactions I widened the circle a bit more. I always tell everyone that I reserve my right to change my mind between now and the birth though! I like having the option to change my mind, which is the biggest reason I don't put it on social media or anything.
Was your choice (to disclose or withold or wait) well-received by those around you?
No one had a problem if I chose to share/not share with them. Like people at the doctor's office making coversation, I just say "We have some contenders but we're waiting to share until she's born!"
What consequences did your choice bring with it?
Each time was different, but no consequences that I couldn't deal with.
Were you happy with your choice at the time?
Would you make the same choice again in hindsight?
Yes. I feel like this middle ground is probably what I'll do for all my babies!
Would you plan to repeat that choice in the future?
I really like Cordelia--in fact it's in my top three for if this baby is a girl! It's my husband's #1 pick. My parents were both not fans of it, but I told my dad he could use the nickname "Cora" if he wanted and he was more on board.
My other top names are Cecily and Eleanor, if that helps you pin down a style!
I'm not a fan of day names, but I like the month names you picked. I've heard of a character named February (girl) so it sounds femenine to me. I also like November, but not as much because it's one of the phonetic alphabet. April is a two-in one though--a month and a more common name!
My favorites are
1. Lauren Elyse
2. Lauren Isabelle
3. Lauren Charlotte
I prefer Faye. It's the only one I have encountered in real life.
Yeah I have problems with all my top picks right now, which is why I'm reaching beyond James (My sister and law and two cousins all want sons named James someday!) and Isaac (Very popular in my area).
The character's fate is pretty gruesome. I've read all the books so I get that. Thanks for the input!
Haha! I am a fan of the books actually. (And you could say that Ned's plotline ends. Whether or not it's a satisfying ending though...LOL)
Yeah there are a lot of bad characters but Theon's fate is particularly gruesome. :(
Ooh I love the suggestion of Theoden. My husband is a huge LOTR fan and is reading all the histories right now. We'll have to talk about it.
I honestly like it, and I like with a sister named Juniper. I even like Echo Dorothea--she could easily decide to go by Dorothea, Dora or Thea later in life if Echo is too much of a problem. The main character on Joss Whedon's show Dollhouse went by Echo (a group of the characters were anmed after the phonetic alphabet) which definitely helped normalize it for me.
I'm more traditional in my own baby-naming style (I'd be more likely to put it in the middle or use it for a pet), but I think Echo could definitely work for your family!
I vote for Cora Vivian!
OOh I second this! Skylar Amelia would be adorable!
I vote for Francis as well. The name really embodies so much more than just the current pope--the issues that are facing the world today, the history of the church and the saints, and within the church, and even, yes, a the antique revival babynaming trend! I fall right into the "antique charm" category and put Frances on the list for a possible middle name for this baby if she is a girl!
1. Which name do you like best and why?
I like Laura best. I like the sound, and the association with Laura Ingalls Wilder.
2. Which one do you think was more common in the 1990's?
Lauren, as mentioned above.
3. Which name has a softer sound to you when it said out loud?
Laura because I say it like "Law-ra" rather than Lauren which is "Lor-en." (And with my Texan accent sometimes sounds like "Lor'n" Laura feels lighter to me somehow.
4. Which name do you like best written down?
I love the cursive L so they both look great to me!
5. Which name sounds more girly to you?
Laura because Lauren can be unisex or a surname.
6. Which name is more professional sounding?
7. Which name seems to be more upper class? (I dont mean to sound snobbish here)
When you say it with your last name, I first thought that it sounds like he has two last names--since Austin is also a common first name and Vaughn is also a last name. This isn't a huge deal, but it would bother me.
I have a cousin named Seamus, after our grandfather and his father James. I'm not head-over-heels in love with the name, but there is nothing wrong with it. I was familiar with it after reading Harry Potter (though I pronounced it See-mus until the movies came out!).
I think if you both like it, you should go for it! :) It's perfectly OKAY lol!
Thanks for the feedback! I haven't shared any of my picks with my family yet because I worry how they will react, but all of these comments are making me feel much better about my taste.
Thanks for the input!
I was more worried about Jack and James being too close rather than Jack and John! Interesting to see these comments, but definitely something to consider.
I worried about Irene being so out of fashion but I'm glad someone else likes it with Eleanor. I like Nora for a nickname too, but my husband is just blah about it. I also love the full name Eleanor so I don't "need" a nickname, you're right!
Yeah, Jade is a bit different from the others but my brother hates his first name because it is so common (Nicholas) and I was originally thinking Jane or Juleit (plus the initials C.J. are adorable) but Jade would honor my brother since it is his middle name.
1. It's just a random nickname because there are currently three living Gunnars in the family! I thought about the Jack/John thing too. Something to consider.
2. Yes I meant Isaac, oops!
3. Yes I was thinking of Cordelia Naismith--she's such an amazing character! I'm glad to have another vote for Cordelia since it's not very popular right now I worry that it's too wierd.
I love books that have complicated naming rules. One of my favorite sci-fi series, the Vorkosigan Saga by Lois McMaster Bujold uses them to signify the class system and family relations. Anyone whose last name begins with "Vor-" is the upper class, and then there are Greek, Russian, etc. divisions within and without the vor class. (With the name of the planet being derived from the Emperor's surname) The main character Miles has a non traditional first and middle name due to plot points which later becomes very important to the creation of his off-world alter egos. Such great names in those stories!
I also really enjoyed George R.R. Martin's series because he has such fun with names and nicknames!
And I just reread all of the Anne of Green Gables books--oh my they are FULL of the antique charm names!