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Thanks for all the feedback about Ava and Evelyn or Olivia.
Id like to see what your opinions are on another name with very similar sounds (I really do just love those vowel + "v" names).
Do you think Everly is just as close to Ava as Evelyn is? I think the 2nd stillable of Everly (Ev-ER) creates a bit of differentiation than Evelyn (Ev-uh), which is closer to Ava (a-vuh). Similar to the comment above where Everett was suggested. Thoughts?
No I cannot changer her name. my husband wont at this point. and everyone else in my family I have discussed this with has encouraged me to just move on ans accept it. It's not that I don't like her name, hind sight just confirmed the other 2 would have been a better choice and fulfilled what I was looking for in a name.
What if i went with Olive? Do you think the non-"a" ending differentiates it more from Ava?
Also, any form of Vivian is off the table but I appreciate all of the suggestions!
Thanks for all the responses!
Thanks for the reply, Babsi!
I'm curious about your suggestion of Everett for a boy, but holding the opinion that Evelyn is too similar. Both names begin with "Ev" so is it only because of the nickname "Rett" that you think Ava and Everett work together? Would you think Evelyn would work if we planned to call her the full "Evelyn" most of the time?
I read through some of that previous thread and one thing that came to mind is that my name is Valerie. So it would be me and my girls all sharing a "v" in our names, which I think is kind of neat. Do people see that as cool, or just poorly repetivive? I guess its probably just a matter of personal opinion... But what are all your thoughts on that: Valerie Has 2 daughters, Ava and Olivia (or Livi)
Boys names are really tough bc nothing sparks me for whatever reason. I kind of like Gavin (Gav for short).
I also like Henry but am not sure about the nickname for that.. "Hen"? (Im not a fan of NNs that don't sound anything like the actual name, such as Hank for Henry.) Again- nicknames have become really important and I'd like to choose a name that offers a great NN.
Thanks! If I did go with Olivia we would call her Liv or Livi most of the time And I do agree that would be less problematic.
I have heard of twins names Ava & Olivia, so yes I do agree it's very subjective. I'm curious as to what the majority thinks...
I agree- mone and my husbands opinion really are the only ones that matter. My husband is much more laid back and not an over-thinker like I am so that's really where the problem is-- I feel my husband would only semi-support actually going through w a name change. If I really voiced that this is what I wanted he woudnt stop me but would certsinly roll his eyes a bit (just as my parents sns friend I confided in did) as he is totally fine with the name Ava and is confused as to why I didn't realize this a few weeks ago. I do this indecisiveness with many decisions- picking out furniture, wall paint, clothes, etc. Of course I can always reverse these minor decisions ...sadly a name isn't like that. So.... I feel as tho I am putting my husband (who is ok w the name Ava and quite likes it) in a somewhat bad spot where he will feel embarrassed for doing something he doesn't even think needs to be done. Does that make sense? If we BOTH felt exactly the same we probably would have already changed her name. I'm not sure if I should just let it go or continue to talk w him about it....
Thank you all so very much for your comments-- I feel as though I know some of you and I appreciate the fact I can be 100% honest and not be judged :)
I have been busy taking care of my 11 day old daughter and am loving every minute. When I hear people call her 'Ava' I like how it sounds and I don't think Ava is a bad name. I DO, however, think I made a mistake and should have gone with the name I have loved since I was in high school (Olivia) ...especially b/c seeing 'Ava' written doesn't make me light up with joy as i wish it did, wheras seeing 'Olivia' written and having the option of the many natural nicknames DOES make me light up! Im afraid the SIGHT of the word 'Ava' will always somewhat haunt me if I don't change her name. The problem is: I did speak with my husband about it and my parents and one of my close friends (who also obsesses over things as I do) and they are all trying to talk me into just keeping he rname Ava and if I ever have another daughter, she will certainly be Olivia. (We want to have 2 children, so there is a chance I can use the name someday.) BUT...it does drive me crazy thinking that I had all of the time in the world to realize Olivia was "IT"...and I probably would have been happiest choosing that name..and I did not. I think Olivia was an old-past-time name I loved, but Ava was the name that I had liked the most in the past 2 years or so and grew this connection to it. Just up until about 3 maybe 4 months ago I started to see the flaws in Ava. BUT..the love of the middle name & FLOW with last name helped Ava stay in the mix, but I am now realizing it was not my favorite name afterall and I need to live with the fact we chose it for our daughter. I also DO think I am mourning the loss of Olivia, as I may never be able to use it if we never have another daughter.
Do I still consider a name change...? Well, the thought sort of frightens me. My husband is supportive and listens to me, but says that woudl be so humiliating for him among his family/friends. And I can't blame him b/c I would be pretty embarassed as well. Sure, we can make light of it, but its very akward regardless. Especially b/c our friends/family have been posting pictures on social media & calling her Ava or Ava Lou already for the past 11 days. I'm about 80% sure I'm going to keep her name Ava, however there is a small part of me that finds a bit of relief in the thought of erasing this mistake and naming her Olivia. I have to fill out insurance paperwork soon to add her to our plan, and I'm having a hard time doing it b/c i know it makes my choice more official. UGH-- I'm really trying to find peace in this choice.
THanks again for your support!!!!!
We have bcalling her Ave (pronounced Aiv or Ayve). Is that how you would pronounce "Ave" ?--> rhymes with 'brave'......
Thank you all again for the responses!
As far as my intentions for 'Ava Lou' , I actually did not want a double barrel name and I apologize if I made it sound that way. Rather, I guess I thought of 'Lou/Louise' as just a way to add a cute nickname (even though it is actually lengthening her name) and not have the whole thing actually be her first name. And I loved saying the full name out altogether: "Ava Louise Clyde" had a great flow and really rolled off of my tongue. Plus, it was in the running the longest and thought, "well if i cant think of something that is soooo much better, we will just go with the name we had both liked 9 months ago."
What I am sadly realizing, is that I prioritized all of the wrong things for some reason: Name Flow, allowin the popularity of Olivia (being #2 most popular name in 2014) deter me (even though Ava was #5 popular name in 2015), and avoiding that "lyn" ending I didnt care for.
Whereas, I SHOULD have focused on me loving the name intrinsically, rather than dissecting things like the last 3 letters or the specific rank in popularity. I also SHOULD have realized my (somewhat of an) obsession with seeing the long, pretty FIRSTnames written out was very important to me: Evelyn or Olivia. As well as being able to use several nicknames that are natural (Ev/Evie or Liv/Livi). I think I and family/friends would pick up on these so much more naturally and I love that! I am even having a hard time using Lou and I guess I had some sort of misconception about being comfortable using the middle name (or part of it) in everyday life.
I spoke with my husband about it a bit last night, and he was somewhat understanding but he loves the simple name Ava and thinks I am overreacting b/c it IS a beautiful name. He said "go ahead and change it" but you know people are going to think its quite crazy. And I agree it would be pretty embarassing. I guess if i still feel this way in a week or so we will talk more about it.
I just cannot believe I didnt realize what was REALLY imporant to me earlier on. I was trying to find the PERFECT name: great flow w/ LN & MN, classic/vintage, long/pretty, cute/easy nicknames, not too popular and I was almost lost in a tornado of analysis these past 6 months or so. Now that the dust has settled, I can see so much more clearly and realized I chose wrong. The good news is I DO have the most perfect little girl & cannot wait to watch grow up, no matter what her name is.
Thank you again for your help! (And please continue to comment.... it does help :)
I am using it a bit and so ste some other family members. But it honestly feels a bit akward to me! Who would have thought??!!! When I use the 'Lou' or 'Louise' part it almost reminds me of the other NNs I'll never be able to use (Ev or Liv).
What do you all think when you hear w baby being called 'Little miss Ava Lou'? Honestly? Does it sound like a genuine name or do you raise your eyebrow and think of Cindy Lou Who from the Grinch whi Stole Christmas?
Thanks for the feedback, Hungarian! As far as the nickname for Ava, I know I sound crazy: Im now realizing how important it was to have a longer full name w a cute way of shortening it/having that natural nickname. Ava doesnt really offer that and I chose it bc of it's better "flow quality" w Louise and our last name, the connection I (thought I) had with it and that fact that I would use Louise/Lou to help make it more unique. This past week, however, I feel the nickname of Ava Lou is tougher than I tonight to make stick and I put too much emphasis on the middle name. I should have focused more on loving the FIRST name inside & out rather than obsessing over flow, popularity & the fact I had some connection w Ava.
I will try all of these suggestions, though, and I'll try remembering why I loved the name at one point. It just seems difficult now bc these feelings I have are pretty strong. I keep overplaying the hour after her birth and wishing I would have chosen the other names and realized that Ava would give me this angst after choosing it.
Does anyone know people who actually did a name change? Or who was considering one but got over it and learned to love the name in question....those examples help. Thanks again!!
Thanks Elizabeth! Again, I won't rush into anything and these stories do help! However I feel the longer we wait IF a name change will be an option, the harder it would be. I AM very hormonal right now but at the same time logically realizing what name would have made me the happiest and suddenly it's all crystal clear now. Go figure!
Thank you.. I appreciate your kind words. I'm definitely not going to rush into anything but am really hoping these negative feelings towards her name subside.
Thank you very much for this thorough response!! And I think you are right when you say I have several really good options. As far as which justification for choosing her name is most appropriate/appealing..that is a great way of looking at it.. but i'm just still not sure. I guess in part b/c this is the first time i've ever actaully named a child and haven't experienced how I have felt afterwards. I'm trying to put myself in my own shoes 6 months, 1 year, 5 years from now with each name and see how i think i'll feel.
I think i should spend a day calling her by 1 of the names only in my head and see which feels best.
Any other suggestions...send them over :)
Thank you! One of my friends is rooting for Olivia and loves it paired with our last name. Livi Lou is a fun nickname for when shes little too :) Still deciding though.....
This is my first child and we plan to have 2, so yes I could if I had another daughter
I can't thank you all enough for your well thought out feedback!
Unfortunately, I am still undecided and am hoping for some sort of sign or dream or feeling to overcome me that will make this choice more clear. Perhaps they all have their positives and whatever I decide I will be happy with. But it's still a nagging pain in my neck and will be until I make 1 name official.
As of now, in this very moment, I am leaning a bit more towards Ava Louise & Evelyn ____ (not sure which MN). I know a few of you came to the conclusion I was settling with Evelyn but I truly adore the nickname Ev & Evie and the fact that it isn't as mega popular as the other 2 right now definitely earns it points. If it grows more in popularity in the next few years, I'll feel like a trend-setter and that doesn't bother me much :) I think my main concern with Evelyn is that I fear it clashes with Louise and our last name. (For example, if our last name was 'Davis' and it read 'Evelyn Davis' that would make this choice much easier and I truly think Evelyn would jump well above the other 2 names. Perhaps MN Mae paired with Evelyn helps the flow and I should just be ok with letting go of Louise...?
I wouldn't say Olivia is completely out but I feel it's only main positive is its 'ia' ending which makes it flow better with the MN and LN. And it's pretty when written out (but so is Evelyn.)
Any other insight based on my current mood?!
As always, thank you!!
Thanks for the input and spelling variation...however I would worry it would cause pronounciation errors and confusion AND I really only care for classic spellings.